Reader Rants

Dear RN,

I’ve been in a relationship for a long time. How can I keep it fresh and spontaneous like it was in the beginning?

Seeking Spontaneity

Dear Seeking,

It depends on how long you’ve been together. If long means three years, then you are due for a refreshing. Now it depends on whether you want a romantic refresher or sexual spontaneity. For romance, try a date night where you don’t go home. Get a hotel for a change of scenery, but don’t have sex. Do everything but: talk, caress, lick, touch, play. Let it build up until you get home the next day. Word of advice, make sure your house is spotless before you go on date night. Both of you take turns…

Stephanie
Atlanta, Ga

I think that sometimes women choose guys for the wrong reasons. There are some attractive qualities to bad guys, but they’re not boyfriend material. We spend a lot of time trying to change them but we can’t. They won’t change until they’re are ready to be better men.

Cieara
Atlanta, Ga

My experience with a bad guy was a learning experience. He had crazy sex appeal and was very laid back. At most, he respected me but still made bad decisions. He was involved with selling drugs to make money and didn’t want to rely on a regular “legal” 9-5. I loved to be in his company but I hated to see him leave, knowing he was headed for the street and…

Dear Rochelle Nicole,

I’m not sure what to do. My friends are really great most of the time, but sometimes I feel that I don’t fit in. I feel like the ugly friend, because all of my girls are gorgeous, petite, and fun to be around. Whenever we’re around guys, they get all the attention. I’ve even heard one ask why they hang around me. I hate my acne prone skin, and I’m taller than everyone else. To make it worse, I have no curves. How can I feel better about myself?

So Damn UnPretty

Dear Probably Pretty,

Every woman has something she isn’t so fond of about her appearance. Nevertheless, you can’t judge yourself or your beauty based on your friends. You…